The Power of Language to Create Your Life - Requests
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Asking for you want is a great way to get what you want.  If you get a no, then this is just a chance to ask it in a different way or to ask someone else.  You multiple the amount of work you can get done when you ask for assistance.

Asking for what you want is called a request.  There are 5 parts to a request as follows:
Committed Speaker - the person making the request.  They are committed to getting what they want and they will do whatever it takes to have what they want.
Committed Listener - the person of which the request is made.  They are committed to hearing what the request is and to making sure that the terms of fulfillment are met on time.
Terms of Fulfillment - the terms that must be fulfilled to meet the request.
By When - the date and time by which the request must be fulfilled.
Response - Yes or No or Counter.

Practice making requests this week and see how different your life can be.

Love ...

Coach Robert
rmrcoach@yahoo.com
Bridging the gap from where you are to where you want to be.

The Power of Language to Create Your Life - Affirmations & Promises
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Have you ever thought about the power of your words?  How powerful is it for you to tell yourself "I am an idiot", "I mess everything up", "I might as well not ask for help, nobody will help me".  How different might it be to know who you are and tell yourself "I am intelligent", "I am capable", "i can ask for help.  If someone says no, I will ask someone else until I find someone to help".

How powerful is it for someone else to say "You are ugly", "You are fat", "I hate you", or "You are not worth 2 cents".  What if you said "You are beautiful", "I love you" or "You are awesome!".

Words have the power to curse and to bless, to tear down and to build up, to wound and to heal.

Language is a powerful success principle to use to create the life that you want.

The success principle I just discussed was affirmations.  To state the truth in a positive way.  Affirmations are a great way to acknowledge yourself and others and support the life you want.

Practice saying affirmations.  You can start to intervene in non-working behaviors by affirming yourself even when you make a mistake.  You are not your results.  Sometimes, the choices you make just don't work.  When you learn from your mistakes and affirm yourself, you start to create more working behaviors.  Practice saying affirmations to others.  When you focus on the mistakes, they expand (make more mistakes).  When you focus on what is working, they expand (make more working choices).

A second powerful use of words is the use of promises.  Promises are agreements to do something or refrain from something.  Promises can be made to yourself or to other people.  When you keep your promises, you build trust with yourself and others.  When you break them, you destroy trust.  There are no large or small promises, only large or small consequences.  This means that all promises are important to keep.  All kept promises builds trust.

Here's an idea for a practice.  Keep a promises journal for a week.  In it, record the promise, who it was made to, the terms of fulfillment and the by when it will be complete.  Become conscious about how often you keep or break your promises to yourself and others.  Remember to record all promises.  Time to get up, time to go to bed, eating healthy, driving the speed limit, call before coming home, report on time, appointments on time, chores, etc.

As you make and keep more agreements with yourself and others, you have increase self-confidence and self-esteem.  You also have trust with others and your relationship grows stronger.

Promises assists you in creating the life you want.

Create a promise log for a week.  Track the promise, to whom it is made (including yourself), whether you kept it and the impact that keeping it (or not) made on your life and the people around you.

Love ...

Coach Robert
rmrcoach@yahoo.com
Bridging the gap from where you are to where you want to be.

Introduction to Bridge the Gap Coaching Blog
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Hi, my name is Robert Ruff.  I am a success coach.  I coach people to be successful in their lives.  Success can mean different things to different people.  The way that I define success is "creating the life that you want, the life that fulfills you".  Where I work with my clients is to be clear about their purpose, vision and values.  My purpose is to be authentic, powerful and vulnerable to assist myself and others to make a difference in the world.  My vision is that by taking a stand for myself, my wife, my kids and my clients, I will be the change that I want to see in the world.  Also, my vision is to "play the bigger game" and impact my local community - Huntsville, Alabama - as well as my other clients nationwide.  My values are love, respect, acknowledgment, education, and integrity.

The purpose of this blog is to provide a space to inspire and share my success principles.  I trust that you will come back often for inspiration and support.

Love ...

Coach Robert
rmrcoach@yahoo.com
Bridging the gap from where you are to where you want to be.

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